1A. “I Can’t” List
1. I can't ask my friends for favors when I need their help.
2. I can't discipline my daughter without becoming angry.
3. I can't say "no" when my boss asks me to work overtime.
4. I can’t say no to my family when they ask for help.
Description 1
I have a lot of friends and they are all very helping. They helped me out in every difficult situation but now I can’t ask my friends for favors because they have already done a lot for me. They still offer me favors but now I’m trying to solve my problems individually and focusing on helping my friends.
Last year, I have to pay my college fees and my friends helped me out by arranging the fees now the situation is I can't ask my friends for favors and I have decided to solve my problems own.
Description 2
I have a sister who is younger than me. I loved him the most and also, she is the only one I am closely attached to my home. But sometimes I can’t discipline my daughter without being angry
because sometimes being furious is the requirement of the situation and I have noticed that children cannot learn to eliminate mistakes unless they are handled with some anger.
Last week, my sister tried to beat the cat. She was playing with a cat but the way she was playing does not look good to me. She was slapping the cat just to make fun then I told him with a serious tone that this is not the right way to play.
Description 3
I am working as the assistant manager in a company. My boss is very kind to me but sometimes he put his work on my shoulders which I don’t like but I can’t say no to my boss because he has helped me a lot throughout my career.
Yesterday, I got free from work then I decided to go home suddenly my boss came and asked for help because he had to go to a party. So, I agreed and can't say him no.
Description 4
I have a beautiful family and I love my family with all my heart. Sometimes they order for many tasks but I can't refuse them because it is my duty to do all home tasks.
Today, in the morning I dropped my mom and sister to school then at break time I went to school again to give my sister lunch.
1B. “I Won’t” List
1. I won’t ask my siblings for financial assistance.
2. I won’t work without my friend in the group presentation.
3. I won’t start a conversation with the stranger.
Description 1
I have a loving family who helped me a lot in any situation but now I won’t ask for financial assistance from them because I believe in hard work and I will manage my finances by doing part-time jobs.
Description 2
I and my friend has been in one group. I have a presentation in class but my friend is absent for three days so I requested the teacher to delay the presentation because I always have been working with a friend which makes our work go well.
Description 3
I am a loving and friendly person but being friendly does not mean you can talk to every stranger. I have a different habit so I won’t start the conversation with the stranger just to be friendly.
1C. “Don’t Know” List
1. I don’t know how to start a conversation with a stranger.
2. I don’t know how to deal with anger.
3. I don’t know how to ask my friends for financial assistance.
Description 1
I don’t know how to start a conversation with the stranger. I feel like I have nothing to say that’s why I let the stranger talk and I only listen to them.
Description 2
I don’t know how to deal with my anger conditions. Sometimes I became furious and lost my mind because of which I feel guilty after the anger situation. I have been trying to control my anger and I believe that I will be improved.
Description 3
I don’t know how to ask my friends for financial help. Asking for help makes me feel that I am doing nothing in my life that’s why I decided to work myself in the future.
1D. Issue Selection
From all the list I pick how to deal with my anger because controlling emotions is always difficult. I also find difficult to discuss it with my friends, I eliminated other problems but this is the major one.
1E. Project Statement
I don’t know how to deal with the anger and I feel it difficult to discuss it with friends but I am thinking to discuss it with a psychologist. I will also ask for help from my family members.
References
Types of Communication - Types of Communication Styles: Conover Company. (2019, May 31). Retrieved from https://www.conovercompany.com/types-of-communication/.
Grohol, J. M. (2018, July 8). 9 Steps to Better Communication Today. Retrieved from https://psychcentral.com/blog/9-steps-to-better-communication-today/.